Cheating Men

Recently a woman posted on Facebook in a private group that her husband who is a trucker and is away from home during the week and home during the weekend accused her of cheating because she finds herself too tired to have sex when he gets home. She explained that she cares for the kids and the home with no help, and that she’s completely exhausted by the time he gets home. She didn’t say she denied him every time, but she was getting very tired of being accused of cheating.

The group, (which is populated by women only) started to comment with some of the most ridiculous things I have seen!!!!! Below are actual quotes…

“Girl, don’t you know you have to pet your dog to keep him on your porch”

“My husband is a trucker and I’m telling you better have sex with him or the parking lot lizards will get him” ((((what the entire FUCK is a parking lot lizard)))

“You’re being selfish. Men are different than us, they NEED sex, and every woman knows this”.

Listen, I agree that sometimes we, as women/husband/what the fuck evers, have to take one for the team. No one feels like having sex every single time sex is offered to them, (no one I know at least), but we cave in once in a while because we love our significant others, and we want to please them at least some time. However, to me it was CLEAR that this woman is married to an idiot!!!!  And the fact that out of maybe 600 comments 4 women spoke against his accusations is TROUBLING.

What pissed me off however was the thought that putting out would keep this man from cheating??? REALLY BITCH, IS THAT ALL IT TAKES???? That shit is so laughable. Listen, in case you didn’t know….

PEOPLE CHEAT BECAUSE THEY WANT TO CHEAT. MEN SPECIFICALLY CAN COME HOME TO A WARM MOUTH AND WET VAGINA EVERY DAMN DAY AND WILL STILL FIND A REASON TO GET HIS PETER SUCKED BY SOMEONE ELSE!!!!!!

The fact that women still believe that there are things that can and will prevent a man from cheating baffles me! Also please understand that there is never a justifiable reason to cheat. You’d literally have to say:

I emotionally abused you because *** insert irrelevant answer here***.

There is always the option to leave. There is always the option to communicate your needs to your spouse. There’s always the option to have an open relationship, (notice I said relationship not marriage because that’s a tough one).

Any woman who believes that there are things that can be done or avoided to keep her man faithful must also blame herself for when he cheats. Ummmmmm?????? I can’t think of one person who was cheated on and deserved it, not even as pay back. No one deserves to be emotionally played with. No one deserves a broken heart.

The fact that these women don’t get that is ridiculous. The women on this post were so completely and totally ignorant I believe it may have dropped my I.Q. a bit……

Later,

Random Thoughts

Cheating Men

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Finding Balance as a Wife and or Mother

I certainly cannot speak for every woman, mother or wife, but I know a few things that I feel I should share. When you’re young and single rarely do you appreciate what that means. It means that you can come and go as you please. It means that your money is your own and you are not obligated to do anything with it but what you please. It means that you can travel, explore and move as you please. It is an amazing and wonderful period in life that we, as women often give up too soon! Now this isn’t to say that being a mother and or wife isn’t amazing in its own right. I am a mother of two children. I am also married. I am very blessed and I am appreciative of what I have.

 

The problem I believe is that many women get married and or have children before we realize who we are or what we want. By the time we realize where we want to be or who we want to be, achieving it is so difficult because we have so many other obligations and our desires can no longer be our priority. We have children who need raising, husbands who need praising and bills, bills, bills….

 

We cannot go back in time and get a redo but we can find some much-needed balance! First things first, YOU ARE A PRIORITY!!!! If you are not well, then you cannot take care of your family and other obligations. If your family is used to you constantly caring for them with no regards to your own needs getting them to understand you ‘new’ self-care time, and or requirement maybe a little difficult. To make it easy, make it a regularly occurring event. For example, let your family know that the first Saturday of every month is your day and you will be spending that time alone. Or let them know that you want to go back to school and doing so is going to require a little sacrifice from everyone.

 

Also, get comfortable with people, (and in some cases your own husband) thinking you’re selfish. Yes, your husband. This is the thing, often they just don’t get it. They probably grew up with a super woman for a mom who selflessly cared for them and their siblings with little care for her own wellbeing. KUDOS TO HER!!!!! But that doesn’t have to be you, and its not a requirement of a good wife and or mother. You are a person. You have needs, and you need to care for yourself.  Or maybe they married you with the understanding that you were to take up a certain role, and somewhere in the shuffle you changed and need something new. Whatever the case is you may be thought of as a BITCH because you’re ready to take care of yourself. Being thought of in this way can be hurtful, but you have to live each and every day that you wake up, and you have to figure out what’s most important, being thought of in a positive way or living a positive life.

In short, be selfish sometimes. Be happy all the time. Don’t forget about (insert your name here), because she’s amazing……….
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